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Frequently asked Questions by Swingers in Barcelona
Why
isn't my ad up yet?
Your
ad (profile) is approved before becoming visible to others. Under
normal conditions this takes up to a maximum of 10 minutes but is
usually less than 5 minutes. We have an administrative team employed
to look after the approvals 24x7.
I'm
new to swinging, how do I get into the scene?
The
best way to get into the scene is to answer an ad or post your own.
That's what this site is all about! As this question often comes
from single males let me offer some direct advice to that group -
try answering ads first in the Couples for males section - always be
polite - send full photographs, cock shots may not get you as many
responses. If at first you don't succeed - try, try again. If
someone says they are going to the Bermuda triangle for an extended
holiday take the hint and move on to the next ad.
I'll
be in Town on x night. How do I get a really beautiful girl?
I
cannot guarantee action to anyone - not even myself! You have four
options here -
1.
use some foresight and planning and answer some ads a few weeks
before your trip to arrange a meeting
2.
visit a swing club during your visit
3.
put a posting on the forum - you may get lucky
4.
call an escort
If
anyone has additional ideas/options on this theme let me know.
How
does one get started as an escort?
Other than placing the ads I have little contact with escorts. I
encourage you to contact them directly. Remember these are
professionals whose time and expertise are valuable and treat them
accordingly.
How
do I start my own adult site?
First, you will need to give up all your other hobbies and
interests. Maintaining a site is a lot of work which doesn't leave
much time for other things. Remember that if you create a site that
people like, they will be very demanding, and keep asking for more
content.
If
you want to go ahead and build one, there are many excellent
tutorials on website building available through any search engine on
the web.
I
will also build you websites go to
http://www.ddproductions.co.uk for more details.
I
will be in the City on x day. Please send me details of
clubs/parties.
All
the information I have on house parties and commercial clubs is on
the site "Clubs
and Parties". If you have details about clubs or parties in
your area please send them to me and I will add them to the site.
Please introduce me to Jane/Sue/Lynn etc.
I do
not do personal introductions except between people I know, and who
I think may get on well together.
David, I have had no responses to my ad - or no one responds to my
emails.
This
is a free world, amd to be realistic I have no means by which to
"make" people respond to ads or to mails sent in response to an ad.
People have thousands of reasons why they may not respond.
Men
please be aware - couples and ladies who advertise for men get so
many responses it is impossible for them to respond to all of them -
To try and understand the problem I have been talking to a few of
the new advertisers. They have told me that the response rate has
been in excess of 500 emails a week. This means that to read the
responses alone takes a very long time. If it takes one minute to
read each mail, it takes more than eight hours to read 500 mails,
and replying to them, even at 30 seconds a mail takes more than four
hours. Emails with pictures slow the process down, especially when
you send them at high resolution (greater than 96dpi) and/or where
the image is very large - greater than a maximum of 600x400 (this is
plenty large enough to let people see you - greater resolution and
size is only needed when you want to print a picture).
Don't respond to ads where you do not fit the criteria of the
advertiser. You are wasting their time, your time, and clogging up
the mail system with hundreds of pointless emails.
Please read the etiquette section to be found on the links above.
David, is my email link working?.
Yes.
I cannot force people to reply, but your mail has reached them, and
if they have tried to respond their mail will be in one of your in
boxes inside your profile. You can check if the recipient has read
the mail by checking your malaga swingers mailbox. Click on mail,
then click on sent mails. If the mail you send has the word "new" in
red, the person you have sent the mail to has not yet read it. If
does not have anything then they have opened it.
Remember that if the word new is still there after a few days, you
may well have ended up in their non-matched bin.
Can
you tell me where to find:
- a
turkish/swedish/dominant escort? - check my ad listings, or some of
the links to other escort boards. I do not have time to browse the
internet very often, when I do, I am not looking for escorts.
- a
discreet hotel in Madrid/London/Paris where I can take my
girlfriend? - use a search engine and look for hotels+cityname.
My
wife/husband is not keen on the idea of swinging, how can I persuade
her/him?
You
cannot without risking your marriage, talk about it, but don't push
it. If it is not something you both want to do, don't do it - it
will end in tears.
What
is acceptable content?
It
is easier to say what is not acceptable: this is my list, not a
legal requirement
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No
Children to be involved (a person under the legal age of consent)
in any sex act or picture. (If I think a person looks under age I
will ask for picture id (a passport) as proof of age/identity)
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No
animals to be involved.
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No
violence - beyond mild bondage/spanking.
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No
pix of scatt.
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No
mention of Rape or sex under duress
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No
pictures of girls on a single males profile.
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Genital shots (cocks and pussies) must be accompanied by a face
picture or a full length body shot (knees to shoulder minimum)
I
will always reserve the right to pull any ad that I do not think
fits in with the tone of the site.
What
do I do at a swinging party?
Have
a look at the information on the "Etiquette" page listed on menu
above.
Why
don't you have a chat room?
I
have now got an excellent chat room integrated in the ads system.
can
I buy you a beer?
Yes
please - mine's a pint of Stella ;)).
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revised:
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7th September 2000
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24th April 2001
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October 10th 2003
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December 12th 2004
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July
3rd 2006
Thanks to a young lady in America for creating this page, and
preparing most of the content for me.
And
thanks to Hils in France for her grammar corrections.
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